[Text] I’m stuck at home in a dreadful job. How do I get motivated to live my life every day?

Submitted by clmtt t3_z0idkr in GetMotivated

Repost from r/getdisciplined

Basically the title. I’m at a full remote job that lately has become very dreadful. I’m stressed after every meeting and I feel burnt out. After lunch hours are the worst bc I honestly get very lazy and usually sleep for 1/2 hours. Believe it or not it was better when I was working at the office (this might be weird for most of the people but I live 5 min from the office and people’s presence really helped me).

I started working out and it was very motivating. Also a way to reduce stress and anxiety in general. But it’s hard to get up in the morning and go to the gym. This past month my daily routine got all messy and I’m trying to get back on track.

I moved to a great neighborhood with lot of parks. The plan was to get motivated to go outside more often but I really just can’t find the energy.

My main goal is to stop focusing on work a lot and start balancing it with my life. I found some helpful tools: working out and generally taking a walk outside. Now I need this to become a habit. Where should I start? How can I find motivation every morning?

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MCE85 t1_ix5qtrw wrote

This story sounds exactly like me even the moving part. The only thing i can think is to get back into gym or go places while working from home. The only thing is these winter months make it worse. Plus being single sucks too. Being on a ton of dates but i just feel like im entertaining women who have no desire for a relationship.

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sbfx t1_ixh7ha2 wrote

I don’t want to derail the OP’s discussion, but for the dating thing, get serious about making a profile that will attract women who want to be in a relationship if that’s what you’re after. Research online dating profiles, write down all the hypothetical things you’re looking for in a partner, and build a kickass profile. The people you’re looking to date will see the authenticity and see that confidence that you know what you want in life (not everything in life, but enough to get on the same page and take the ride with you).

Go after it like your life depends on it, and do it now.

Even if you spent 50 hours working at this and it yielded a partner for life, it would be one of the best ROI usages of time that one could possibly allocate in a lifespan. Does that make any sense?

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d5d5d5d5d5 t1_ix616ve wrote

For me, habits only stick if I start by making them "too easy to refuse".

Sometimes working out is too much and I skip it. But if I start with the habit of just playing a 6 minute stretching video on youtube? It's so easy I can't say no to it, no matter how little energy I have.

Then slowly, over a long time, I get the momentum to turn it into a bigger, more harder habit

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rainbarre t1_ix6des7 wrote

Is there someone who lives near you that you can start a routine with in the morning?

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BeddingtonBlvd t1_ix8n4wy wrote

Be kind to yourself. Continuing to set goals and try to move the bar higher haven’t been working because you are burned out and need some time to recover.

If you can, find a therapist to help you through this. Talk to friends, stay connected to people.

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dangei t1_ix5rwpd wrote

Working at home for me must have structure and boundaries.

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humvee911 t1_ix5sw5o wrote

That's actually a big problem for WFH, you start to go a bit coocoo after a while, we don't wanna admit it but when the ceo's demand workers to go to the office it's not completely unjustifiable. Try doing something new from time to time

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enduring_student t1_ixfbm0x wrote

For me it's sometimes a matter of finding out what disrupts me from Doing The Thing.

I have exercise goals too, but right now I have a pretty random schedule which means working out at random times, which in and of itself isn't bad! But I'll get wrapped up in a task and forget to workout. For me a good trick is to set a timer to snap me out of my task so I get up and go exercise. I'm still working on remembering to set the timer but hey, baby steps are still progress.

So my advice is to think about the things that stop you from Doing The Thing, in this case exercising and going out more. Even if they seem stupid or that you should just be able to ignore them, pay them their due if they derail things, it's often the small things that end up being the most difficult so don't be shy in admitting something like 'I hate the color of my gym socks, I got them because they where on sale but now I hate them.' Wear fuzzy socks with adorable baby lamas on them if that's what works!

The point is to figure out what does work for you, and does not work for you, and lean into what works.

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Melander86 t1_ixjck03 wrote

My only advice is find another job. You sound like me. I was working 100% remote for 4 years. It resulted in anxiety, laziness and unhappiness. Working remote is not for everyone.

I had the same habits as you (slept during the day, watched movies etc) I even have a son and a GF living with me. But during the day, I felt super lonely. You need someone to say “good morning”. You need someone to share victories and losses with. Someone to gossip to. Someone to talk about the small things. 😉

Trust me. It will not become any better. Find an on premise job. You are probably just a social person, you need interaction to be happy.

Alternatively find a job where you can work from home 20-40% of the time. 😉 Good luck.

Another very stressful part of working from home is that you are always at work. Your computer (job) is right there. Breaking up your time off and your working hours becomes super hard when working from home.

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