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Witch_on_a_moped t1_jae7t8u wrote

He's not a project car. You either accept him for who he is, or move on. What is sleep hygiene??

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house_ruless OP t1_jae9eci wrote

You're right, he's not a project car. But he is a human being who deserves support and someone who will help him learn the hard things. He doesn't really get that anywhere else right now.

Sleep hygiene is how you handle your sleep. It can be really important when you have insomnia. It's things like having a set sleep schedule, staying off of electronics right before bed, and having a wind down routine. If you have good sleep hygiene, then you tend to have better sleep. If you're still suffering from insomnia, then you can go to your doc about it and it helps because you've already done most of the things they're going to suggest you try first.

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Witch_on_a_moped t1_jae9vhw wrote

I've done the things you listed and still have insomnia. The only thing that helps me is over the counter sleep pills. You can't help someone who doesn't help themselves. It is 100% my responsibility to handle my anxiety and depression. I have to make the effort to do the things that keep me from falling in to the pit of darkness. It is not my husband's responsibility to constantly pull me out of it deadweight and all.

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house_ruless OP t1_jaebukg wrote

That's what I mean, if that doesn't work, then you can get something like a prescription or OTC sleep medication.

He doesn't expect me to do any of that, but I would like to be able to help him. I don't want to just stand to the side and let him wallow when there are steps we can take together to make his wallowing a bit less deep.

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