Please help, I don’t know what I can do to fix this

so basically me and my bf had this big fight, it started because I had a bakugou pfp on yt with hearts, I don’t like bakugou anymore. I simply forgot to change my pfp since I’m not that active on yt anymore, but he got really mad at me and called me a liar and a cheater and an unloyal gf because of it. When it started he acted all distant because I sent him a ss of me and someone else arguing on yt and he got all cold cause of my pfp, he proceeded to call me sexist and to fuck off. He then acted like I was his worst enemy, and he told me to KMS. He called me several other names, and then changed all his socials to make it look like he was single, I was so hurt. The man I loved told me to KMS and bully me because of a pfp. And then called me a liar. I was so hurt, and I asked if it was over because I was very confused, he acted like we broke up, so I asked the question anyone would “are we over?” And he told me to shut up and stop being annoying and he would tell me if I was single or not. And then we argued a little more, and I snapped. He was constantly saying I cheated and that I was a liar, his idea of cheating is men hitting on me, somthing I cannot control? I block men that hit on me. But he then said any man can get a conversation out of me. I was so hurt. I never cheated, u spent 1700 to see this man in person. And he thinks I’m cheating? He gets mad at me for showing the ss of men hitting on me (he asked me to do this btw), and then I snapped. I yelled at him saying he was being unfair and that this whole relationship he has been gaslighting me, guilt tripping me, and etc. and then he said I have problems to (which I’m not denying, I am mentally I’ll but I try my hardest and I’m getting help) and I said the difference between me and him is that I’m trying, and he’s not, he overthinks about every little thing which really has a toll on me, It stresses me out, I can’t wear anything but baggy clothes, I can’t talk or look at men, and I cannot have a service done by men (pedicure, manicure, stuff like that) or else he will overthink. And I get overthinking is normal but not this much. And he told me “I’m not trying hard enough” and that I needed to grow up. And that I need to “learn some discipline” I also need his permission to do stuff, I do love him, but after this argument I feel different. I feel like if he got this mad over a pfp, what if it’s not serious? I’m scared. He’s now pretending like nothing happend. I never used to think he was cheating, but now I’m kinda suspicious. And my friends are calling him abusive but I don’t know, please help.