Do you have any advice or tips on how to keep your sex life interesting after 20years of marriage? M44 F51

Submitted by Even_Ship_1304 t3_127x720 in relationship_advice

I absolutely love my partner and we communicate very well but we're becoming more and more mismatched when it comes to sex.

We have four children, 3 of which are young adults and are often out of the house with one not even living with us anymore.

We do have a 10yo old who still sleeps in the same room as us. It's partly because he's not a good sleeper on his own and partly our fault because he's our last and we've indulged him in that.

What are your tips for: Getting buy in from your partner to switch things up and try new things?

How do you deal with being the sole driver for this change? (I'm finding it exhausting and frustrating if I'm honest)

I cross posted in askreddit because I'm new to Reddit and I'm learning how this works. Sorry about that.

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JFC_ucantbeserious t1_jeghdr4 wrote

I think you may have buried the lede here a bit. If your partner is not interested or invested in improving your sex life, the best tips and ideas aren’t going to mean much. This is something you have to both be working on together.

What does she say when you talk to her about this? Is she not interested in sex at all, or more that she’s fine with the status quo and you want more adventure/frequency?

Was it always like this? A recent change?

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Toroic t1_jeh087g wrote

Step 1 is definitely getting the 10 year old out of your bedroom.

As for the rest, not enough info to give you anything more than the generic advice.

Are you still making time for each other during the day, and setting aside date nights?

Are you doing a fair split of housework?

When was the last time you took a weekend away together?

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