Submitted by datgai_boi t3_yis5e4 in relationship_advice

okay, usually i don’t post about my issues on here, but this is the second time this has happened and i still don’t know how to deal with it. i’m m 17 in high school. my boyfriend 18, is in college. we have been dating for about half a year now. 4 of those months we were in person, but the last two have been really difficult for me. i really wasn’t too happy about doing long distance at first and the more it goes on the more i don’t like it. before we started dating, he seemed like a completely different person. he seemed so mellowed out and relaxed and that’s something that i really liked about him. the more we started talking , the more i realized that we really want to live completely different lives. whenever he wants to talk to me, i’ve noticed i am less interested and less happy when i talk to him. i thought that the issue was just the long distance , however i went to visit him just about a months ago. it was just so draining being there and pretending. if you’re still reading this you’re probably like, oh just break up, whatever. but i am REALLY bad at that. i still really care for him still, but i just don’t want to date him anymore. SOS

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Lou_Dorsett t1_iuk8awu wrote

It's like ripping off a band aid. It gets easier with practice.

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jerrylee26 t1_iuk8thr wrote

I'm kinda in the same spot with just a close friend. I feel like she just isn't interested in talking to me on fb anymore. But anyway I think you should really try to communicate with him and letting him know what's going on. Its not fair to him and more importantly its not fair to you that your having a hard time with this.

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datgai_boi OP t1_iuk91a7 wrote

yea but how would i even begin to put that into words that won’t like crush him???

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