What do you do to get over a person, I'm going insane

Submitted by Mysterious-Cheek-362 t3_z910qo in relationship_advice

Hey guys. First relationship here and first love ever, even if I am 29M. It's the same story you heard many times, sorry if I ask once again.

I'm so in love with her and in one year we went through a lot together. When she needed someone in her difficult times, I was there for her. I always thought of her as someone to protect with my life...

Well.. a couple of months ago she started a new job.. started to connect with her supervisor.. started to get out drink something every friday and... ended up cheating on me.

Now my mind is constantly occupied by the thought, she keeps trying to call sometimes and I'm in pain even if I try to keep myself busy.

What helped you a lot to get better after a breakup?

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HauntedMike t1_iyee439 wrote

Establish as soon as possible that you are no contact and if she cares about you at all she will respect that.

Never question your actions. Keep her out of your mind as much as you can.

Your new mantra in life is "I deserve better than what i've been given and i'm going to fight for it" Stick to it and believe in it as much as you can.

Work hard to better yourself to be better for yourself. Be completely content and happy being you. And when the person comes along that will actually cherish your feelings you'll be glad you found so much better.

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stevencri t1_iyee55y wrote

Well first of all, block her everywhere and her supervisor. You don’t need constant reminders of her, and nothing she can say will fix things. That’s the first step to healing.

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HauntedMike t1_iyeoxyw wrote

Replying to Mysterious-Cheek-362 (#826,194)

I go to he gym as well. My biggest thing was I just lost my sense of self in the relationship always being a unit and not a person. I lost my hobbies, friends, just throwing myself too deep into the relationship. Take a step back and try to find some great hobbies. Maybe stuff you used to do. Friends you used to see regularly.

I took up building models, Playing games I didn't used to play, I got with a friend to learn blackjack for fun. Sometimes its just the act of looking for more activities that can be helpful and fulfilling.

Depression also plays a big part in making us feel like what we do isn't enough when in other circumstances it can be.

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