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ReferenceMuch2193 t1_j2bzl0p wrote

This is weird. Cut your losses. Life is too short to stuff it full of unyielding folks.

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HumanMycologist5795 t1_j2c0ldg wrote

Without knowing the context of what was said or the seriousness of it, I think you are correct, especially because of the grudge, best behavior, and them admitting to their toxic trait, as well as saying they wont change. As they said, what they said at the end being direct with you, you have to be direct with them, and I can only see bad things happening and you walking on egg shells with this person.

Edit: You are young and will meet many other wonderful people who don't act that way.

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PoisonApple413 t1_j2c17o1 wrote

What did you say? People can't give worthwhile advice on how you should proceed and whether this person is reasonable in their response if you leave out what you said.

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[deleted] OP t1_j2c1aue wrote

I made an edit. I feel really bad for typing it and I am ashamed

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PoisonApple413 t1_j2c98e0 wrote

That is a strong response to some other guy's crush blocking him. I think reflecting on why you made this declaration about "all women" would be a valuable chance to grow, whether or not you want to continue being friends with this person.

In deciding whether you want to keep being friends, I think you need to ask her for clarification. Does this person mean they would never forgive you or that they would not forgive right away and would need to rebuild trust? I ask because you mentioned her saying she would not forgive but that y'all could move on.

It is one thing if moving on and being on your best behavior means it would take time to reassure her that you are a safe friend she can trust. Men who show anger when women deny them attention are scary. I'm not saying you are a danger, but it might take time for her to trust you again.

It is another thing if she means she will always hold a grudge but still expect best behavior from you. You don't have to stay indebted. You can still grow from this, but move forward without her and make new friends.

ETA: I re-read your post. She said she would hold a grudge forever? If this is a friendship you would like to save, I think it would still be worth asking for clarification once everyone has had a chance to cool down. But you don't have to try to hold onto the friendship if you don't want to.

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ZippNex t1_j2c9fde wrote

You sound like a misogynistic asshat, and they sound like a psycho manipulator...

Cut them off and reflect on why you said what you said.

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