sirbassist83 t1_j803y2d wrote on February 10, 2023 at 5:20 PM

Reply to comment by letmeseesubreddits in TIFU by spending the night at my boyfriend’s by [deleted]

if anything youre underreacting. i dont know if theres a cultural element im missing, but what they did was wildly inappropriate.

letmeseesubreddits t1_j804xqz wrote on February 10, 2023 at 5:26 PM

cultural elements don’t really apply here i believe. just a white, lower class family in the south. i definitely don’t know anyone else with a family similar to mine, especially someone who would go through the same things i do, but i just reassure myself it will be over soon enough and that i’ll save up enough money to be able to live my own life. i was worried i was just coming off as a moody teenager with this post but there’s a lot of people who went through the same stuff as me and it’s really reassuring.

sirbassist83 t1_j807rbj wrote on February 10, 2023 at 5:45 PM

i did not go through the same things, but at 17 i would tell my parents "im going to mikes(or sarahs, or jarrets, or cassies, etc) ill be back in a day or two" and theyd just tell me to be safe and have fun. i think my experience is much closer to typical than what you described, and youre definitely not just being a moody teenager. try to go to college or trade school in a different city so your grandparents dont have the ability to exert so much control over you. try to save every penny you can now, so moving out will be easier later. if you are making $300/wk it should be theoretically possible to have a little spending cash, and have close to $10k by the time you graduate high school, which is more than enough to cover moving costs and first/last months rent, etc. best of luck