letmeseesubreddits t1_j80h29y wrote
Reply to comment by [deleted] in TIFU by spending the night at my boyfriend’s by [deleted]
i don’t understand how i am inconsiderate or egotistical for having explicit permission from someone with legal custody over me to spend the night at my boyfriends after i get off work, only to wake up to the police and other factors because my grandparents did not like that and would rather me not only not have a job, but not leave my house at all so that they can “support” me my whole life in the same way they do my mother. im not sure how you could give me tips for growing up any more than i have tried to grow up.
NeedsWit t1_j83d27l wrote
Simply inform them that you'll spend the night at your bf's. That's part of what it means to be considerate.
Maybe it's unfathomable to you, but in all likelihood they actually care, and were worried about you so they raised hell. Why else would they phone up everybody and their dog. They wouldn't take the effort of raising you and pay for your bloody living costs if they didn't. The same applies to your mother's.
Your mom is a grownup and responsible for her own decisions, including for taking decisions that led to her still needing parental support. It's her choice to never have grown up, to still depend on her parents. The only one to blame for her inaction is her.
The only ones who look good in this story are your grandparents. You're still half a child so you get half of a pass, but your mother does not.
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