oneeyecheeselord

oneeyecheeselord t1_ivqxzx5 wrote

Honestly, I wouldn’t call that woman your mother. She didn’t raise you at all. She killed a baby and put you in their place, and let others do all the work in raising you. At best, she’s just your stalker that you happen to share DNA with.

I’m not sure how I would react if I was your dad. He’s not in a good mental state from what I’ve gleaned. I recommend therapy and counselling for you both. The best scenario is that he continues to love and care for you as he always has, he did stay with you and raise you despite his family saying to leave. But, I understand why you don’t want to face him. Best not to push the envelope.

As for answers, did she have any electronics? Maybe she kept notes on there, or she kept a diary. You can also check to see if she had any relatives or friends that might have some insight.

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oneeyecheeselord t1_ivqvirr wrote

So, your biological mother murdered a baby and replaced said baby with you. She ruined the lives of the people who raised you. She also stalked you for your entire life and drove the woman who raised you to suicide.

You have nothing to feel bad about regarding her murder. You also have nothing to feel guilty for regarding the people who raised you, you weren’t the one to murder their child and replace it with your own. You didn’t tear their marriage apart and drive your mother to suicide. That was all your shitty biological mother. She couldn’t leave well enough alone and kept stalking you and left the woman who raised you and YOU with trauma and mental health issues.

You are a victim here. You didn’t force your biological mother to do what she did.

She could have arranged for you to be adopted through an adoption agency if she wanted you to have a better life legally, but she didn’t.

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oneeyecheeselord t1_ivqsyh9 wrote

Suspicion doesn’t mean anything when your partner could possibly be in danger. If it was someone that wasn’t your wife doing this, your wife would be able to keep her eyes open and take precautions. Not telling her about the threats was a horrible move because you could have put her in danger.

Though, maybe your wife will read this somehow and see the part about how throwing away the notes and going to HR was you being loyal and trying to resolve the situation without worrying her and that the real screw up is you not telling her about the threats made against you. I say you passed most of the loyalty test, but you failed the part where you take your wife’s safety into consideration after the threats were made but you do have a rebuttal of not wanting to worry her, you chose her mental health over her safety. No need to stress her about a stalker from work. I can see your logic but you forgot that a stalker might go after your partner. Have you heard of the phrase ‘murder the hypothenuse?’

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