Be careful about yr choice of lawyer. Many are sharks and others are incompetent. Go for mediation--your kids will thank you for it.

If you use an atty, and push for something unreasonable, your ex will hire an atty who then will up the ante. Before you know it, you will have a contested divorce, a GAL involved (they are all incompetent), and you could be looking at $200,000 to $1,000,000 of legal bills if there is a lot of money. There could be charges and countercharges of mental illness, drug/alcohol abuse, etc. Also, depending on the length of marriage, you may have to get a job, and probably won't keep the house. If you have a trial, most judges will order the house to be sold, so there is incentive to stay out of court.