It's not you. I'm early 40s married female who has lived here (New Haven area) all of her life except college, and I have no area friends. I did but...when your life experiences bring you down different roads, they don't want to hang out anymore (big one was them having kids, us not). We got a dog about a year ago but she is so shy around other dogs LOL so there went the "meet people via dog" idea! Work is hard bc I'm a manager...

We live in a town with few transplants (what someone else said on this post is correct lol, totally obvious here!), so it's hard when everyone on your street already has their group from freaking kindergarten...

We do the church thing but everyone our age has taken a hiatus due to covid and not wanting to expose their kids. Or hardly come bc of the kids. Or don't come to social things bc of their kids. Other people are OLD and have cliques (ridiculous at church)...or I worry that I'm not holy enough lol. I like all sorts of random shit/pop culture and feel like I'm going to stick out.

As I've told my therapist, I guess I'll wait to meet friends when I retire. Hopefully it'll be easier to try new things since I'll have more time and can meet people that way.

But I get where you're coming from, and it's hard to keep looking for people when you're doing a lot of work already. I admire your positivity!!

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