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tookerken t1_j7ly6zh wrote

Have you tried approaching your mother recently and asking her to elaborate more on what it was exactly that was causing this fear and discomfort?

Do you think that if you approached it with a more scientific nature, and less eye rolling internally that she would open up more and be more receptive to sharing with her experiences?

Would framing it in a sense of trying to preserve historical accuracy about the state and the growth from which it's come from help her open up and be willing to divulge some of the things that she may have gone through and and noticed and perceived with her perspective?

You can let her know there's at least one if not hundreds or thousands of people just waiting by their screens to see any type of accountability or accounting or reckoning of the past of the state that we all know and love not to mention just the world we live in.

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squirrell1974 OP t1_j7mtshy wrote

I doubt my mom would talk about it. She seriously never talks about her childhood at all. Any time I've ever brought up anything from the past, even something from my own life, she says she doesn't know what I'm talking about. She does it even if there were tons of people there who also remember (like if something happened at a wedding or Christmas), or there's solid proof, like pictures or something.

I love the suggestion u/essaitchthrowaway3 made, though, to talk to my other family members. I have really good relationships with my aunts and uncles. And now that I've started down this path, I think it would be pretty interesting to see if anyone has stories to tell.

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