meusiclver t1_j9pf1nz wrote on February 23, 2023 at 5:08 PM

Reply to comment by FlexZone2019 in Help needed with replacing a window by Present-Substance-82

As someone who grew up in a trailer I wish you had said that is a trailer, not a "house" so the walls are very thin. Your use of just and "not a real house" hurt past me feelings

knauff13 t1_j9prbs6 wrote on February 23, 2023 at 6:24 PM

Some trailers are really nice. Some houses are really awful. Don't take it to heart, my guy.

StoneTemplePilates t1_j9q6jul wrote on February 23, 2023 at 7:58 PM

It's objectively not a real house, but that doesn't mean it's not a real home.

meusiclver t1_j9qcq2i wrote on February 23, 2023 at 8:36 PM

Truth!

WhiskerTwitch t1_j9qw8cc wrote on February 23, 2023 at 10:36 PM

If they'd said "not a real home" then sure...but they're using the name of a particular type of structure so the words are accurate.

meusiclver t1_j9qzjj7 wrote on February 23, 2023 at 10:58 PM

The "just" can be used to imply inferior, derogatory, less than, or a way to diminish others feelings. "Why are you excited, it's just a song?" "Don't worry, she's just a girl". In both examples it is a song or a girl, but the just changes the tone and meaning of the sentence. If the sentence was, It's a trailer, not a house, so the walls are thinner, that is a different tone than it's just a trailer not a real house. The use of real implies that which is not real is a knock off or inferior as well.

WhiskerTwitch t1_j9rkbcb wrote on February 24, 2023 at 1:26 AM

I understand that you have some personal sensitivities to people discussing trailers that is outside the realm of discussing the details of structures, but please remember that this is a thread about a structure with very narrow walls and how to deal with changing a window in said structure. No one here was trying to hurt you or demean you in any way.

meusiclver t1_j9rmhak wrote on February 24, 2023 at 1:42 AM

Incorrect, I have no personal sensitivities discussing trailers. Thin walls, trailers, and solutions can be discussed thoughtfully. I don't believe the op of this thread was being intentionally hurtful to anyone, especially me. In fact, assuming positive intent is why I wanted to speak up about how the comment could be perceived, especially since the original OP is working on a trailer.

FlexZone2019 t1_j9tcp45 wrote on February 24, 2023 at 12:35 PM

Stop reading too much into each word. I don't mean to offend anyone, but I also don't live my life weighting every word to make sure no one is offended. In this discussion, not a real house is an accurate statement.

Sorry this strikes a cord with you but people don't measure each and every statement on the off chance that someone, somewhere, might be offended.