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Relevant_Monstrosity t1_jcafi7z wrote

> Upon this a question arises: whether it be better to be loved than feared or feared than loved? … because it is difficult to unite them in one person, it is much safer to be feared than loved …

— The Prince, Machiavelli

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KofOaks t1_jcalptf wrote

When I was a kid my dad told me "There are 2 things that control the world, fear and love, and it's not hard to find which one I chose.

He wasn't very nice and still isn't very nice...

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Relevant_Monstrosity t1_jcanm94 wrote

Every person is capable of self-realization and change. This is the learning experience that defines subjective humanity. If we never choose the path of fear in our naiveté, we will never understand the transformative power of love.

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platoprime t1_jcckqqm wrote

Even though love sounds nice and fear sounds mean it is equally naïve to think fear has no place.

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Spideris t1_jcb1zcu wrote

I'm sorry to hear that, friend. You deserved better.

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KofOaks t1_jcbnn9w wrote

Thanks.

Well thanks to him being a shitty dad I decided not to have kids to not take the chance of one day mimicking his behaviour.

I'll never tell my child that "You know, I didn't want kids your mom made me do it". I'll never scare them with my fits of rage nor insult them when I'm not-so-secretly drunk. I'll never tell them that the problem in society are artists, intellectuals and insert different races and religions. I won't teach them to hate, rage and smash when they are annoyed or mad.

It's hard to emancipate yourself from a shitty narcissistic parent and I won't risk putting anyone through this.

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Dripdry42 t1_jcbe2gh wrote

He was writing a parody of the Italian nobility at the time. That book was what NOT to do.

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