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Obiwancuntnobi t1_jamo6s2 wrote

What about widows and parent who’ve lost a child.

Save your unrealistic cookie cutter happiness recipes

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sgr28 t1_jan2xoa wrote

Not going to judge anymore for how they live their life but I can tell you that my Dad became a widower in his mid 20s and made a personal decision in recent years to really focus on nostalgia and I can definitely tell you that decision has had real tangible negative consequences for him. I don't judge him for doing it, but I can testify that overloading on nostalgia is not without cost.

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Obiwancuntnobi t1_jan47ka wrote

I can guarantee you it’s not a decision. As a widower I can say it’s not possible to not think of what you’ve lost. It’s unavoidable. The tide of grief comes in even after years of being out. You cannot ru away from it in any healthy way. You cannot control it.

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