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annonymark t1_jcwi40y wrote

Bullshit, Stress is a killer you need to eliminate it

I had a stressful job before. I quit that and now I'm much happier. Fuck stress

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Use-Useful t1_jcwtn8y wrote

There is a fair bit of research to say that how you view stress determines its effect on you - to the point . I 100% agree stress is very bad for people, but changing your attitude on it might make a big difference in how it effects you.

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Alwaysunder_thegun t1_jcx996r wrote

There are different types of stress too. This is the " difficulty and challenges" stress. Not, the " my child swallowed something they shouldn't have" stress. Or the " I have no money so I'm going to get evicted" stress.

I find a lot of these motivation/ health things are for when you only have surface problems

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Use-Useful t1_jcyii69 wrote

That's fair. The research I am familiar with is about day traders who have a notoriously short life span due to cardiac problems from more or less constant gambling of huge sums of money.

Edit: I'm actually not convinced that their case is so dissimilar to your examples ... some people may view "I'm broke so I cant pay rent" as a moment of doom, and other may view it as a problem they need to figure out, a challenge to be met? I'm not sure, but it seems to me that the reality is irrelevant to the attitude involved, and that seems like it lines up with the research? I dont know, I am not saying this isnt toxic optimism in some ways, but the research I am familiar with still seems to apply.

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ArcaneHex t1_jcwkvoc wrote

It is much easier to learn to cope with stress than avoiding stress altogether though.

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annonymark t1_jcwlcqa wrote

That depends on how much stress. I worked for a startup and it overwhelmed me.

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RichBuffalo2893 t1_jcxcnh8 wrote

Amen . I 'll second that opinion ! Stress isn't 't a motivator it really is a muthrrfu@&ker . I did read it correctly 1 st time ....

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notatechnicianyo t1_jd05qi5 wrote

I think this is more akin to anxiety here. If your job is adding to your anxiety, or your friends, or your habits, or what have you… yes, remove the stressors from your life wherever reasonable (no throwing your baby in the trash!!!).

Sometimes life is just stressful, responsibilities pile up, and you can’t make them disappear. In that case ignoring or abandoning your responsibilities is guaranteed to give you more stress later on. You can abandon your responsibilities, they won’t abandon you (relationships aside >_>).

I’d say I agree that you need to “eliminate it” though. Eliminate it through direct and deliberate confrontation, which in the case of your job would be finding a better job.

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dreamingonastar1 OP t1_jcxlbbi wrote

Everything needs to be balanced. What motivates me doesn’t necessarily motivate you and vice versa. That’s ok we’re different people. There are people who look on the bright side of things. Getting out of the all or nothing mindset allows you to take on the world with a better attitude which reduces stress.

Do what’s best for you boo, just like I’m going to do what’s best for me and I’m just trying to inspire people along the way…

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