legendarymcc2 OP t1_jebx2rt wrote on March 30, 2023 at 9:59 PM

Reply to comment by guitargoddess3 in I have totally lost the will to work out [text] by legendarymcc2

I agree but I still think I look relatively good. I want to get back into shape partially for her but due to all the other stuff mentioned I can’t keep a consistent routine.

Swimming is a good idea though I will mention that to her!

guitargoddess3 t1_jebxdpl wrote on March 30, 2023 at 10:01 PM

I see. Well if you’re still fit, but just not as muscular as you were I don’t think it’s a problem unless it’s bothering you. People’s goals concerning their physique can change over time. You gotta do what’s right for you.

legendarymcc2 OP t1_jebydeu wrote on March 30, 2023 at 10:08 PM

I am fit right now though my muscles seem to have faded a bit. I know I could easily slip though as I have been steadily gaining weight since August

guitargoddess3 t1_jec6b0a wrote on March 30, 2023 at 11:04 PM

Yup. It’s easy to lose all the work you’ve put in.

legendarymcc2 OP t1_jecmnzl wrote on March 31, 2023 at 1:04 AM

Yeah I can’t already tell my muscles aren’t as slim. A part of it too is that im not longer a varsity athlete and im not working though.

guitargoddess3 t1_jednmjb wrote on March 31, 2023 at 6:58 AM

That makes sense. Just keep up what makes you happy with your physique.

NotEasilyConfused t1_jecavok wrote on March 30, 2023 at 11:37 PM

You had a standard you expected of yourself before you had a girlfriend. Now you have one, and in one hand you say you have gained weight and your body is nutcracker different from last year (in a different comment), but you also think you look 'relatively good'. This sounds like rationalization to me, and I don't think you are looking at this the right way. You were willing to work hard to impress a bunch of strangers (in hopes that you would attract one) ... but now that you have someone who loves you, she doesn't deserve the effort?

This is the same kind of thinking where married people don't think they need to feed their relationships... and then wonder what happened to the love and fun times. My ex-husband admitted to me once that since I had stood up before everybody we knew and said I would be his forever, he didn't need to keep me interested like when we were dating. Notice I said ex-husband... because who would want to stay in a relationship with someone who thought love equals no effort.

Based just on your own comments, I would wager that if your relationship ended, you would be plenty motivated to get back to your previous standard.

legendarymcc2 OP t1_jecm8y9 wrote on March 31, 2023 at 1:01 AM

It’s not that she doesn’t deserve the effort I was working out semi-regularly when I met her. Covid took me out of my routine for a while and I’ve been pressed for time, the weather has been shit, and my motivation just isn’t there anymore.

Also I’ve matured and realized muscles aren’t everything to attract a girl but that realization also made me realize working out isn’t as important as I thought it was which is a factor for why I haven’t picked it up again.

Lastly my body still looks fine. My stomach isn’t perfectly flat anymore and my chest and arms look a bit smaller but I still look skinny I’m not really to worried yet but I want to get back into it.