The phrase “suck it up” doesn’t do much to help and is dismissive of the problems someone may be going through.

It’s possible to send that message through without being a dick essentially. Because there are many times when you simply have to accept you’ve been dealt a shit hand or have no choice but to power through a situation. That doesn’t mean you have to treat yourself harshly and be dismissive of emotions.

Be gentle with yourself, process your emotions, and then you can start putting together plans of action and get through.