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blastuponsometerries t1_j0uhzjr wrote

Reply to comment by abraxasisall in [image] Experience never goes wasted by _Cautious_Memory

Yes, actually.

But not a different life, a different attitude.

"Don't fuck it up" is way to high a standard. Everyone fucks it up, that is a major part of life. Such a high standard for yourself means you can only ever be stressed or disappointed in yourself. This makes it harder to learn and grow, ironically diminishing yourself. Especially common is something bad happens or someone fucks up something big. They can feel broken and ruined, regardless of how much other potential they have and don't see.

Let go of obsessively trying to craft the perfect "play through." Instead, embrace learning and growth, however messy fucked up way you arrive at it. Compassion for others is improved through accepting your own faults.

That is how you can actually lead a better life (just my opinion).

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Rrraou t1_j0up8cf wrote

This, this is the answer. Fail faster, fail better. It's not about perfection, it's about not being afraid of getting back up and doing better.

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abraxasisall t1_j0ujs4r wrote

I appreciate your sentiment, but I’m not talking about attitude. I’m literally talking about how our “play through” is a permanent death, no respawn run through. Have whatever attitude you want. That’s part of the beauty of life; live it how you want; I am making no commentary on that aspect of living. Merely that we are living and will someday die. Nothing will change that. Lol

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blastuponsometerries t1_j0uldhc wrote

OF course

But how you approach that fact will make all the difference as you hit major roadblocks, derailments, and challenges to your core identity.

How we imagine ourselves and our lives going is mostly illusion in the face of an infinite universe and it helps keep us going. That illusion gets challenged and its far healthier to find a way forward in the face of temporary but shattering disappointment.

Even actually being able to comprehend the nature of permanent death itself requires a better understanding of consciousness than is current available. Simply a result of the level of scientific knowledge in the short time we exist.

We will not see the end of human advancement, only play our small part in its evolution. To me that is awe inspiring.

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abraxasisall t1_j0v0gya wrote

As I said, I appreciate your sentiment and philosophical ponderings. However, regarding your ponderings, we can apply Hitchen’s razor: what can be asserted without evidence can also be dismissed without evidence. I prefer to see the world through a positivist epistemological perspective. Which is why I said all of the sentiment you’re discussing is hyperbole and I’m only stating that we live and then we die, definitively. Anything else is unknowable. Do what you want with the inbetween.

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