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EvilChing t1_j46x7u6 wrote

Yes but this doesn't work because I still know the total size of what I need to do regardless of how small of a step I take...

Unless I'm oblivious to the rest of the steps I don't think I can take the first

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Hellaguaptor t1_j47c55a wrote

You DON’T know the total size or even what will happen to the staircase in the future. It’s like this staircase is in a pitch black room and you have a preconceived idea of how big the staircase is but it’s based on a very biased, irrational, impossible to calculate set of assumptions and so the staircase could be super short or it could be even longer than you anticipate. But there’s one option you have unless you wanna sit in a dark closet at the bottom of a staircase. Take it one step at a time.

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SugoiSwag t1_j472p22 wrote

You know there is a lot left to do but you just focus on the next one. When you focus on the whole thing you can convince yourself it isn’t possible.

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jrburkh t1_j488cu5 wrote

Ah, focus. Yeah, my brain doesn't work that way, until it super works that way - but you never know when that will be. That unpredictability results in your leaning hard into that focus, which is great and all until you realize you've neglected everything else over the excessive amount of time you've unwittingly spent working on "this". Boom overwhelmed again.

Not hating on this post, or the other helpful advice and encouragement throughout this thread. It's just not quite that simple for some of us, and it can be frustrating when people try to help by sharing the same approaches you've tried innumerable times without success. I appreciate the willingness to try to help, but sometimes it feels very reductive of the challenge in managing ADHD.

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