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LiveFastDieFast t1_j49m0ji wrote

Reply to comment by Not_ToBe_Rude_But in Do it for future-you [Image] by wholesomecomics

Yep. Action will almost always create motivation. Motivation out of nowhere is rare.

What helps too is breaking the task down into tiny steps, and convincing yourself to do just one tiny step. Once that’s complete, it’s easier to be motivated to do the next step and so on.

Example: let’s say you need to do the dishes. Convince yourself to wash just one plate. After all, one is better than none right? Once that’s done, your brain will be like “ well shit, my hands are already wet, sponge already has soap, might as well clean one more dish.” Next thing you know you’ve done all the dishes, and are motivated to go clean even more stuff

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Worost t1_j4aivqg wrote

But then what if I promise myself to only do that 1 dish I only really feel motivated to do that 1 dish and afterwards I just don't want to do anymore dishes and I stop doing the dishes?

This is an actual serious question no joke I would like to know

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AgnesBrowns3rdNipple t1_j4anfzx wrote

Then you washed one dish.

One dish is infinitely more dishes than zero dishes.

While it doesn't seem like much, the act of starting the thing is harder than doing the thing

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Alpakasus t1_j4ajbr8 wrote

I start doing shit and in the process I'm like OK this could be done and now I cleaning my whole apartment. It's hard to start and hard to stop.

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TaikaJamppa t1_j4azni3 wrote

For me it’s hard to start and keep going… but I love my mom for helping out, even if I tell her I can handle it… Yes, I’m a grown up, live alone, and my mom does the cleaning every once in a while, unless I have done it (that’s yet to happen).

I used to do cleaning as a job, somehow never did at home…

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Trivi4 t1_j4amb6l wrote

Then that's fine, but it's not how it usually works. We humans tend to go on autopilot on certain tasks.

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61114311536123511 t1_j4asd98 wrote

Then you've achieved what you aimed for and you can be proud of yourself! Be patient, you can improve over time, one dish at a time. No beating yourself up, you got up and did SOMETHING and that means later you can do it again!

I believe in you :)

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Daiontearose t1_j4avia6 wrote

Have done this and just stopped. No energy is no energy, sometimes it's just not up for bargain.

But. You might also think about making systematic changes to make things easier for "future you". For eg, switch to paper plates and throw it out when done, no washing. It feels so dumb, but if it gets things done without stressing you out, then it works, right? (And anyway, you don't have to commit to them. Just put a stack of paper plates in the house to use or not use whenever you feel like it).

Apply this to the rest of housework (ie- anything menial that you can simplify/throw out). Save your limited energy for the important difficult things you really can't avoid (family, bosses, studies, etc).

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