BallBearingBill t1_j8i9q9c wrote on February 14, 2023 at 2:48 PM

I don't think happiness is directly proportional to expectations. I think happiness lays within the journey to where you place your reality. I say "your" reality because two people can live side by side and perceive the world differently. Each would then define their realities differently, perhaps one is happy and the other isn't.

Expectations are very arbitrary and dynamic so I won't even go there.

JCPRuckus t1_j8iggkt wrote on February 14, 2023 at 3:35 PM

I'd argue that in your example expectations are what is coloring each person's view of an identical reality. Things look good if reality is meeting or exceeding your expectations, and they look bad if it's failing to meet your expectations. Saying, "place your reality" is just a different way of saying "set your expectations" when you don't want to say the word "expectations" for some reason.