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only1lcon t1_jdlqr96 wrote

Did you experience much racism at all? What were the pros and cons of chassidic? What's your opinion of the treatment Israel has on Palestinians?

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RidiculousBadger OP t1_jdlxi7j wrote

I have been very fortunate that I can count the amount of times I experienced racism in my life on two hands.

I remember quite vividly one time a friend of mine had to let me know as we drove through a town that a look of incredulity I saw on someone's face was racism-- I grew up in a very Jewish town, albeit secular. My town was 40% Jewish. I can't underscore how fortunate I was in this regard. Many Jews had to deal with racism as children. I didn't experience it until I was in college, so I never felt defensive about my ethnicity.

Pros- I felt like even though many people in my community were strangers, I could trust people I just met on the street. I never had to worry about what to wear, it was all black slacks and dress shirts lol.

Cons- I disliked the amount of professional nepotism there was. They are used to being in close proximity at synagogue so if someone bumped into you, they were not in the habit of saying "excuse me." I hated how limp the handshakes were. I hated that everyone would ask for your first and last name immediately on meeting someone... but that's probably a pet peeve.

Israel- at this point, I don't give it much thought, but in general the belief I held was that the Israel/Palestine situation was a battle for survival, and the rest of the world would have been happy for Israel to lose. I never felt racism towards Palestinians, but I did meet many in the community who did. I'm sure we could talk for hours about this one. At the time, I wanted a peaceful solution that had Israel retaining as much land as possible, preferably gaining more as it was the only way I thought Jews in Israel would survive. Many ultra orthodox Jews believe it is against the rules for a Jewish state to exist before the coming of the Messiah, and protest the state. My sect supported Israel very strongly, though.

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only1lcon t1_jdm79do wrote

Appreciate your honesty and yes you do have a point that we could go on for hours about it tbh. I understand its a very sensitive issue and subject but I do find the Israeli governments actions quite deplorable at the treatment of Palestinians, especially after what Jewish people went through in WW2 (not looking for an argument, just my opinion)

How are you finding life now? Do you feel like you've missed out on anything or don't have any/many regrets?

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RidiculousBadger OP t1_jdnjj9a wrote

I'm much happier now.

I used to say I live my life with no regrets, but that's such a childish thing to say. I have regrets. I would definitely have done things differently.

I spent 10 adult years being ultra orthodox. I definitely feel like I missed out on forming strong social bonds with people my age, and as a consequence, I feel as though I live largely in isolation.

Having said that, I have a decent online social life.

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only1lcon t1_jdnp03m wrote

Fair play to you mate, nothing is ever too late in most instances.

Sincerely wish you the best and hope you get past the isolation part as you're more than interesting enough to build strong social circles

All the best

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