Hi, I’m late to the party so u might not get to me, but thank you for this!

My kids were molested and raped by their father/my ex husband when they were aged 0?-10. (They are safe, doing pretty well, don’t see him, regular counselling, and police involved).

My question is, I often am fearful that this will ‘ruin’ their lives forever. While they are doing ok, it’s all relative of course. Is there an age where things will be easier for them due to their brain/mind finishing to grow? They are currently 19, 18, & 16.

We are not going hurt about any of their past despite being told by many authorities that we shouldn’t talk about it. Proud isn’t the right word but we have worked hard to be not ashamed and the way we did that was to not hide it from ourselves or anyone else. So far so good but better would be amazing.

Any advice you can give us appreciated.