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bgoug t1_izfyvn8 wrote

Do you ever feel an obligation to tell the spouse/partner of the woman cheating? This is yucky :(

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Claudia-Delgado-LCSW OP t1_izg1pr7 wrote

Hi Bgoug. Thank you for your question. As a therapist I am able to remove my personal feelings from situation in order to best help my clients. This is how I am able to offer a nonjudgmental space and deeply discuss different views to help clients process ripple effects of actions. I can share that most of my clients are remorseful. Many are actively working on how to disclose the affair or fully disclose details. In some situations, it is not safe to disclose affair.

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bgoug t1_izg2lx2 wrote

I understand if you can’t answer this for confidentiality reasons! how many of your clients are in abusive situations where disclosing an affair would be dangerous vs. not?

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Claudia-Delgado-LCSW OP t1_izg3c5a wrote

I can’t disclose this information due to confidentiality and I can add that abuse is not the only reason it would not be safe to disclose affair. An example I can give is if partner is suicidal.

But there are many reasons. Sometimes it has to do with timing as well.

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bgoug t1_izg4hdp wrote

How many of those reasons do you believe to be morally justifiable?

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Claudia-Delgado-LCSW OP t1_izg52f0 wrote

All I can say is there are lots of gray in these situations as there are many different beliefs. This includes culture, religion and upbringing. An answer for one would not fit an answer for another.

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bgoug t1_izhmcpw wrote

I don’t believe culture, religion, or upbringing should ever be an excuse to betray the person you’ve committed yourself to and possibly made vows to. You’re doing good work, therapy is so important, but please remember that

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iamfierce1111 t1_j1y006v wrote

This is way too black and white. I think as a therapist she's better suited to determine that her personal beliefs have no place in how she treats her patients.

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