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DontTouchTheAxeBlade t1_j51wtna wrote

Why should we listen to the advice of someone who took 30 years to work out how to deal with anxiety rather than someone who has always been good at dealing with it?

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Mel-Robbins OP t1_j51yx7u wrote

You shouldn't.

You will likely follow the advice of somebody that you feel most connected to.

And I can tell, based on the tone of your question, that you don't feel hopeful when you hear my experience, you feel judgemental.

I personally think the best qualified person to help you and somebody who used to be you.

I struggled for 30 years because I didn't know any better.

The shit I discovered - and I share with people around the world - I learned the hard way, so you don't have to.

I'm 54. Thirty years ago - you wouldn't be caught dead walking into a self help section of a book store. If you saw a therapist you were a freak. Prozac had only just been invented. There was no social media. And there was a massive stigma around mental health.

And if you've "always been good at dealing with it" - you probably don't struggle with anxiety. That's not the kind of person that I would personally turn to for help.

But now that I know what I know - I manage situational anxiety like a pro.

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