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aLittleQueer t1_je4yd95 wrote

Actually got asked once: “But if you don’t want kids, then why did you get married??”

Uh…”B-because we love each other and want to build a life together. Isn’t that why you got married?”

Smh.

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MostlyTuesday t1_je65iy2 wrote

I figured it was so if either partner ended up in the hospital the other would be able to visit and make medical decisions. I’m sure there are other spousal privileges that a piece of paper grants but I don’t know offhand what they might be.

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kabe83 t1_je8su28 wrote

They are actually huge. In addition to being a health proxy without having to verify tons of paperwork, and taxes, inheritance is important on many levels. Stepped up cost basis on real estate. Claiming on higher earner’s social security. Not having to fight off other family members for your own stuff.

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BlueberrieHaze t1_je5se9t wrote

This is exactly what my MIL asked when we told her we were engaged.

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LimpTeacher0 t1_je6kj68 wrote

No most people get married because they have children or the relationship is dying? If you’re in a healthy relationship why spend all that money just to prove what was already proven you guys love each other.

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Astarkraven t1_je79q3n wrote

Lmao. My husband and I spent 100 bucks on a marriage license and now we are legally considered family for medical/ insurance purposes. If we plan to live together long term, why wouldn't we do that? We get to file our taxes jointly and when one of us is in the hospital, the other has the right to visit or even to make decisions if necessary.

We don't even slightly want kids.

What's this about spending a lot of money to prove something?

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quypro_daica t1_je5wz3b wrote

to be fair, marriage is not matter whether you want to have kids together or build a life together. It is just a waste of money and putting unnecessary pressure on the couple. I have been single for all my life (27), and even though I wish to have a Life time partner, I feel stressed whenever thinking about getting marriage

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BREN_XVII t1_je7afzh wrote

Eloping is a stress free and as cheap as you want to make it way to tie the knot. Our 'wedding' cost like £400 in total and made life a ton easier when it comes to visas etc (have a tendency to move around a lot).

The thought of a big wedding terrified the both of us 😂

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Beazore t1_je6on9l wrote

Same here. My fiance proposed last year and it only took me 6 months to have a breakdown and say I never want a wedding or to be married on paper. I (27F) don't see it as something that benefits me in any way that using a lawyer to gain some of the legal privileges can't also benefit me.

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CarmellaS t1_je6r6yl wrote

A lawyer can't get you entitlement to Social Security benefits from a deceased spouse and hospitals can ignore some agreements between individuals It's fine IMO not to marry but know what you are giving up.

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