If you're on this thought process; well done! I'm currently reading a book called "Cleaning Up Your Mental Mess" by Dr Caroline Leaf and it's changed the way I interact with people and act daily. Title is a little harsh and there is (as with all books) information that won't apply to you and can be filtered out but I think it's worth a read just for the self awareness it gives. Being effortful and conscious about the way you live day to day life literally rewires your brain on a molecular scale.