bananaleaftea t1_itovxam wrote on October 25, 2022 at 6:01 AM

Keep it surface level, keep it vague and neutral, and redirect the conversation.

Eg:

Them: "It must be tough having [enter whatever they're trying to get more information about]!

Me: Eh, it has its ups and downs. What about you? What's it like having [enter thing]?

TheGrimDweeber t1_itpvu53 wrote on October 25, 2022 at 1:14 PM

Yup! Super vague, short answer, and immediately redirect.

As a secretive person (for good reasons), I have become crazy good at it.

StrahdTracker t1_itqsl8q wrote on October 25, 2022 at 4:57 PM

What are those reasons?

Satonami7 t1_itqwdg1 wrote on October 25, 2022 at 5:21 PM

Eh, trustworthiness. What about you?

bronsoval1 t1_itu8z7j wrote on October 26, 2022 at 10:52 AM

Super vague, short answer, immediate redirect. Nicely done!

TheGrimDweeber t1_ittq934 wrote on October 26, 2022 at 6:27 AM

Oh you know, just some personal stuff. Nothing exciting, really. What about you? Any interesting tales to tell? Mobster uncle, spy mother?

MissyAgravation t1_itq32ml wrote on October 25, 2022 at 2:08 PM

I definitely agree with this. A lot of people like talking about themselves and offering advice. Turn the questions back on them, show interest, just listen, smile, nod, and offer brief answers. I am a good listener and very private