I know people who think they need to have all the same shared interests and beliefs for a relationship to work, but that sounds boring af to me. We're all individuals, and I don't need to be in a relationship with another me. I want each of us to be our individual selves and a couple.

You need a good common foundation, but I want someone who's the sugar to my spice and the spice to my sugar. Someone with mostly the same values but a different perspective. Healthy conversations and debate instead of a constant stream of "I agree!"

But to have that you need a tolerance for individuality, and an awareness that life will change and grow you into different people than you were when you started. Which is the way it's supposed to be.