Submitted by [deleted] t3_yzougl in LifeProTips
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Devittraisedto2 t1_ix16eok wrote
That's not how that works
I can assure you that very rarely will a shy/introverted person will force themselves to socialize when we're comfortable with not doing that, usually we expect people to socialize with us first in order to avoid taking that first step ourselves.
We usually keep to ourselves if left to our own devices, there's usually no reason to force yourself to socialize with others unless you really want to or have to.
The best way to socialize for introverts/shy people is to be in a place where you have something in common with what you like/what you do. At least there you can strike up a conversation with others because you all have something in common that you like, and that means less thinking of what to think on what to talk about with a stranger. Sure, it's still hard, but it's better than going in a loud place with a friend hoping you'll force yourself to socialize.
It's the fear of rejection and making mistakes that discourages shy people/introverts from socializing. You work up the courage to talk to someone in a place but that conversation is short-lived because there's not much in common you can talk about so you just clam up.
Then there's the fact that it's a loud environment, where conversations are prone to be constantly interrupted. Nothing discourages us more than being interrupted by our surroundings or other people
AtlantisSky t1_ix17ate wrote
Not how that works.
dilligaf6304 t1_ix17te9 wrote
Do you really think that shy or introverted people don’t a) want to socialise and b) actually socialise?
I’m an introvert that’s sensitive to noise (sensory & neurological issues) so going to a loud place where I struggle to hear the person I’m with isn’t going to be remotely enjoyable.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being either shy or introverted.
[deleted] OP t1_ix17xzu wrote
Yikes. As an introvert this is like the complete opposite thing
In fact I would likely just talk less if it's too loud and god forbid you hate noise or are sensitive to noise like I am, you'd just then get upset and frustrated trying to have a conversation with a friend and would want to leave with them or just leave period and would rather not continue the conversation or hangout
bundy6663 t1_ix18niq wrote
Do extroverts need to be more introvert..?? 🤔 There's absolutely nothing wrong with being introvert or indeed shy, unless of course its making life miserable or a chore. Be who you are, if you want to make a change to be more of an extrovert/introvert then it's gotta be your choice, not to appease others
Unique-Ad-9316 t1_ix19nkh wrote
This is really awful advice...
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