Submitted by blackberrywheatfox t3_zz8o2w in LifeProTips
I (21) have been working in a job in my field of study and make a good amount of money from it (my first job in my field of study). I have been working there for about 6 months now (first few months I was not there as much due to other commitments). I have built relationships with 4 senior staff members who have been working at the establishment for years. In fact, we talk very deeply about our personal lives and such. I find that pretty much all staff hates the management team and we all collectively talk shit about them to be quite honest. However, said senior staff members also talk shit about some new staff members (I also join in as well, due to some past issues we’ve had with other staff members). But I’m starting to realize that said 4 staff members have been already friends for years and as much as I may consider myself an acquaintance to these people, at the end of the day, they are all much closer to one another than I maybe ever will be. To be honest, I just want to build more boundaries in a sense where I want to stick to strictly work. This is because I find I’m getting caught up in the “gossip” side rather than working, learning, communicating with clients and just getting tasks done. I want to build that wall up where I am obviously not rude or dismissive, but also focusing on my work. Any advice?
NoDebtHaHa t1_j2a456s wrote
Stop talking shit to people about other people behind their back. If you talk shit about someone behind their back EVERYONE knows you will talk shit about them behind their back. That is a terrible way to start a career.