I think too though if it’s a legit misunderstanding by either party then both can come back from it. Adults talk shit out & if they can’t then it is really is doomed.

But yes it’ll be tiring if either is constantly suspecting things. I was sent on a spiral recently due to things my gf said w/o realizing contradictions & it even happened a 2nd time when I thought I would just clear it up & it made it murkier.

3rd time I brought it up though I had lost a bit of trust in them, but never questioned their intent still, even though I realized I also uncovered a thing that most people might have freaked out over & been accusatory over.

She was definitely defensive as she assumed I was implying accusations w/o actually making them fully. I think she’s either thought I wasn’t being direct enough or that I was thinking like her ex, either case was wrong though. I just wanted an honest conversation of the matter.

She then had her own blow up w/ me 2-3 weeks later over something I meant aaa joke & light heartedly as if I was being serious. Although even if I was serious I didn’t see it mattering much given what we were discussing & how I felt about the conversation, we were both being obviously silly I felt like.