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CTDKZOO t1_j6aozhi wrote

>I care very much for this friend, I want to be kind and respectful to them, and this is coming from a place of wanting to understand them better. Since I wasn’t there when they decided to make this change, we’ve never really talked about it at all.

I've got some simple advice. Invite them to hang out and chat in a space where you both can have a candid but casual conversation. Then just ask them to tell their story. Your own words are the opening.

"I want to be a supportive and good friend. Would you be comfortable sharing your story and journey with me?"

Then listen

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emo_rat119 OP t1_j6edfzh wrote

That’s all I want. I tried to ask about itlast time we hung out, and they instantly seemed so anxious and gave me such short simple yes or no replies, and didn’t try to expand on anything I asked or they answered. I just… I don’t know how to start that without making them feeling like they’re just being questioned.

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CTDKZOO t1_j6evhbe wrote

It sounds like you are a wonderful and caring friend!

But you missed the chance to listen. If they didn't expand when you asked, that's what you need to hear. Let go of worrying about the past until they open up on their own.

Instead just be present with them as the good friend you are

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