My marriage took a huge 180 about 5 years in. She started verbally abusing me all the time. Always putting me down, always looking for the tiniest excuse to blow up at me. It was so sudden that I couldn't figure out what the hell was going on. I tried to think of what i did that was so bad but there wasn't anything. I think she wanted me to do it back so she would have an excuse to end it but I wouldn't return the hate. The problem was we were living in her parents house so I was the one who had to leave when she asked for a divorce. My father in law was my biggest supporter but he got lung cancer and died within six months. With him out of the way, the rest of her family turned on me and I was out of the house and homeless. It took years to recover from that.