Jetztinberlin t1_j1z5g1w wrote on December 28, 2022 at 2:10 PM

Reply to comment by Yourfaceis-23 in Kids realize what you did for them and appreciate it once they have kids of their own. Spouses or SOs don’t realize or appreciate it until you’re gone. by Yourfaceis-23

Then you have a boyfriend problem. I'm sorry. Have you discussed this with him?

Yourfaceis-23 OP t1_j1z5uzd wrote on December 28, 2022 at 2:14 PM

I have

Jetztinberlin t1_j1z6aq2 wrote on December 28, 2022 at 2:17 PM

If you've discussed it openly and plainly, and he understands you feel underappreciated and hasn't changed as a result, then... he's telling you making you feel appreciated isn't important to him. As you can see from the comments here, it is very possible for partners to show appreciation to each other. So you have a choice: maybe the lack of appreciation is a flaw in your relationship you can live with because other positive aspects balance it out, and maybe it's not.