With your criteria, Stamford (and Norwalk) is definitely doable! I

am a Local Realtor in the area, and I will say that rent a lot of the time are significantly higher than what a mortgage could be. There are some buildings that offer EV charging, but can be scarce (look for the newer ones).

If you need any rental/purchase recommendations, send me a message! I’m always available to chat, welcome to the area! :)