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Pinkumb OP t1_iredb6b wrote

An excerpt:

>Stamford is unique because the politically engaged populace in town only expresses one consistent desire: opposition to everything. Real cities have community members who create organizations advocating in favor of things, rather than endlessly arguing against anything. Real cities have business owners that become excited at the prospect of more people coming into town to stimulate their business, populate our community, and enrich our culture. Real cities have local representatives that care to imbue the place where we live with art, culture, history, architectural beauty, walkable spaces, and connected communities.
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>Stamford has none of these things. Despite being the most diverse city in Connecticut, the crown jewel of the state, and the fastest growing community in the county, Stamford can be best described as washed-up. Largely because our defining cultural influence is a coalition I’ll call the CAVE People. Citizens Against Virtually Everything.
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>If Stamford has a culture, it is the emptiness of this group’s borderline nihilistic passions. The Glenbrook Community Center is in disrepair and has been closed for a number of years, which means it is the exact kind of dilapidated and blighted building CAVE People will do everything to protect. In the past, Stamford has sought “historical preservation” for buildings like a carriage house of a rich guy who lived 200 years ago and factories irradiated with toxic dirt. The CAVE People’s idea of The Paul Revere House appears to be Paul Revere’s garage or maybe his septic tank. Except it’s not even Paul Revere — it’s just some guy.
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>CAVE People love deteriorating buildings so much the only new construction our boards will approve is from developers who build new ones that collapse in on themselves. Or maybe it’s because the developer had to spend so much of their budget fighting a legal battle with our board to get the building approved at all. You get what you pay for.
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>That last example is from Stamford’s Harbor Point, which may serve as a salient metaphor. The management company for Harbor Point sometimes pitches it in marketing materials as the “sixth borough of New York.” A more accurate pitch for Harbor Point — and all of Stamford — would be to call it a New York borough from 20 years ago. Stamford is the cultural mecca where our marquee community events get headliners such as The All-American Rejects, Third Eye Blind, Nelly, T-Pain, and every other artist saved to your iPod in 2006.
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>This love for outdated things actually rolls all the way down to Bedford Street, where we basically have the same exact bar copy/pasted five times. Each of them subscribed to the same playlist including "Don’t Stop Believing," "Sweet Caroline," and "Free Bird." This may have been a neat gimmick if it was passed off as an intentional decision — like a 1980s "Stranger Things"-themed bar — but no such creativity exists in this city.
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>There’s nothing wrong with a little nostalgia but Stamford has made it a pathology. In Stamford, the only action you’ll ever be applauded for is if you can cling to the past so tightly you freeze time itself. Call it the Stamford Time Warp.
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>We’ve successfully locked our city in an alternate dimension where the past lives perennially in the present. Where there is no housing crisis to address, where people still drive everywhere, where people are still enamored with pop stars from the Bush era, where the bars play the same music as the supermarket, and where there’s no greater offense than doing something new. Our community will abandon every virtue they claim to possess — empathy for others, belief in truth, and general civility — and don the CAVE People persona to keep things from ever changing.
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>This is the only explanation I have for this bizarro coalition that pops up whenever an elected official who claimed they would make things better actually tries to do that. It is the CAVE People who see no issue simultaneously arguing conflicting points so long as nothing changes. CAVE People don’t support building single-person units, multifamily units, accessory dwelling units, luxury apartments, affordable housing, or commercial zoning. They don’t support bike lanes, sidewalks, traffic calming measures, or traffic widening measures. They complain about the lack of communication from city hall but also shout down the mayor and city staff whenever they attempt to explain their policy. You can summarize their views on zoning and new buildings as BANANAs: Build Absolutely Nothing Anywhere Near Anything.

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steak_n_bacon t1_ireedn8 wrote

Stamford ain’t perfect, but it ain’t that bad. My takeaway here is this person wants buildings torn down and harbor point not to have been built. And better music at Bradfords? They’ve got a jukebox, be the change.

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Athrynne t1_irehpz3 wrote

I agree with many of this guy's points, but he comes off as a bit of a dick about it. I am definitely a YIMBY, but I also think that if an older building can be preserved and reused, it should be.

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The-Magic-Sword t1_irerk7o wrote

Ive lived here for near on 30 years, they arent wrong. I work smack in the middle of downtown and the two most 'exciting' things to happen here are like, religious music and brunch.

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Jimalo69 t1_ireuxqt wrote

I agree with harbor point shouldnt have never been built.

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Eastsurfer100 t1_irev161 wrote

it's definitely holding on to the past but thats the culture of our state. there should be trolleys running through the town 18 hours a day connecting the downtown to trains and harbor point. there should be trolleys to Glenbrook too connecting the entire city

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PikaChooChee t1_irfi8ru wrote

Waaaaay too long. He could have made his point in 5 paragraphs.

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Enderthe3rd t1_irg4xni wrote

It’s much easier to destroy than create. Erring on the side of saying no is wise policy.

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Enderthe3rd t1_irg5eq6 wrote

Hmm should I take advice on a complex, important subject from a child who has never held a real job and can’t seem to keep a fake job for longer than a year. Yea, I should probably just give him the keys to the city. He can’t manage his own life but surely he can manage all of ours.

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Enderthe3rd t1_irg5mko wrote

Imagine thinking Mecha, Towne Parlor, Hudson Grill and Bradford’s are the same bar copy pasted five times. Guy can’t string together a coherent point to save his life.

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wokeoldster t1_irh9biq wrote

Stamford is a bedroom community to the greatest city in the world. Get on the train.

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Which_Major_6720 t1_irylh3w wrote

Really? I happened to very much agree with this part.

Bedford hall, town parlor, bar Rossi and Hudson room are all the same thing. Tutti Pazzi, remos, Bari, zazas and very similar. Fish and capriccios are similar.

So many of these bars seem like they are run by the same owner and just do t have personality.

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