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fuzzmountain t1_j4nsm70 wrote

Reply to comment by freeshavocadew in Deaf woman with autism found safe after going missing 3 weeks ago by AmethystOrator

Kind of a broad statement. Autism is a spectrum. So is deafness. I’m deaf and probably more aware of my surroundings than most. When you know you can’t hear you deal with it. I guess there’s always the chance the kidnappers find out she’s deaf and use it to their advantage but most people probably don’t even realize she’s deaf unless they are repeatedly trying to talk to her with no response.

Now I’m just imagining kidnappers going around walking up behind people and saying “hey can you hear me?” before they attack lol

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upwardstransjectory t1_j4qw7xh wrote

Lol. I'm not deaf, and somehow I think that if someone whispered that in my ear before robbing me I'd be even more traumatized afterward 😄

Wow this other dude replying to you just had a full spiral lol

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fuzzmountain t1_j4r2yc9 wrote

Eh. I’m guessing he’s young. He was going for funny and I get it.

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freeshavocadew t1_j4nx8jd wrote

I hear you. Is it normal for deaf people to wander around, missing for 3 weeks? Autistic people? No, you say? Very interesting, it's as if my comment was very specific combining all 3 of those traits into 1 person! As if I was verbally pointing to her and only her being mute with a history of going missing. As if all 3 of those things mentions don't make this particular and specific EXTREMELY vulnerable.

Funny how language works, huh? It can be generalized, like men are almost always larger and more physically aggressive than women, or specific, like Helen Keller may have been brilliant but she as vulnerable and easy to defeat as a toddler. Not that I'm in the habit of kicking toddlers, I'm just saying if I was inclined to, we're having a 20 month old abortion.

You, on the other hand, just being deaf means you're missing an important sense, one that the rest of us rely upon and all of us take for granted a lot. You have a disability. You don't hear car horns, the racking of a shotgun, and losing your phone could be a whole-ass adventure, you Nyle DiMarco MF. Your disability is less obvious than some others, sure, and as far as disabilities go, it's a relatively straight-forward one to live with. It's 2023 now, texting has replaced calling others and we have close captioning on Netflix. You know what it's like being deaf as you live it 24/7/365 and you can see when other people A) are frustrated with you (doing the equivalent of trying to fist bump Stevie Wonder by yelling at your deaf ass) then B) shocked that you weren't just ignoring them, you're actually deaf.

Edit: there appears to be some misunderstanding here. First two paragraphs were sarcastic argument for why this particular woman is one of the most vulnerable people in our society. It was written sarcastically as a response but not maliciously.

The third paragraph was also not written maliciously but detailed how being deaf is also a disability of a different kind. I guess what's upsetting you sensitive people is using the word disability and disabled? That word is accurate, so I don't understand the problem with it. I didn't do anything wrong.

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Aggressive_Dog t1_j4o0eqi wrote

I think you might need a nap, bro.

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freeshavocadew t1_j4o1dtg wrote

Why?

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Aggressive_Dog t1_j4o59n3 wrote

Because your reply to fuzzmountain's comment makes you sound kinda unhinged.

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freeshavocadew t1_j4o5s62 wrote

You read all of it? Joke and all, and I sound unhinged? Whatever bro

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fuzzmountain t1_j4o73rc wrote

Dude even I thought some of it was funny but yea you sound nuts lol. I don’t wanna change you or anything but if you ever find yourself saying, “you have a disability,” to someone that has a disability its just not going to look good from the outside.

Like first off, thanks dick(jk I love you) but I know that already. Then you just go on to have your own interpretation of what being deaf is and it’s just comically dumb. Funny. But dumb.

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PullUpAPew t1_j4pje9o wrote

Don't forget "it's a relatively straightforward one to live with" lol

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fuzzmountain t1_j4prs59 wrote

Oh I absolutely loved that considering very few people seem to get it in my experience.

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digiorno t1_j4oszo7 wrote

Not tired from catching all those downvotes?

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freeshavocadew t1_j4pmtym wrote

Reddit means little to me. I wrote 2 paragraphs being sarcastic and detailed about how it makes sense to describe the deaf, autistic, mute woman in the article with a history of disappearing was specifically vulnerable when that deaf person tried to argue. I won that.

Reddit didn't like my using the word disabled and specifically using it freely. That's silly. Deaf people are disabled, same as blind people. They require accommodations the rest of us don't. Being deaf may be a "spectrum" in the sense that they can hear a very deep tone or extremely loud nearby sharp noise but can't hear conversation or whatever. I detailed 2 dangerous things (that makes them more vulnerable) and then threw in the practical thing about how different it must be for a deaf person to lose a phone if you can't hear ringing or vibrations. I even referred to a famous deaf model!

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imregrettingthis t1_j4pmtjf wrote

Because we are hoping you won’t be like this after you wake up...

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freeshavocadew t1_j4pmyod wrote

Like what? Misunderstood and brigaded over sarcasm and references on Reddit? I've done nothing wrong.

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fuzzmountain t1_j4o0cxn wrote

Wow…. Ummm. I don’t really see a need to reply to most of this….lol but I just wanted to say that car horns are loud and a good amount of deaf people would actually hear it if they were close enough. Wouldn’t sound the same as it sounds to someone who isn’t deaf but might be audible to a certain extent.

Also, I get what you’re saying about the phone thing but it’s really not as life breaking as you’re assuming lol. Like what do you do when you lose your phone? You ask someone to call it right? If no one is around then are you having a “whole ass adventure?” So really there’s no difference between a deaf person losing their phone and someone with normal hearing losing their phone except that when I lose my phone and have someone call it, I also ask them to listen for it. It’s not that crazy. If no one is there I look for it just like you do. Hope that helps your curiosity or whatever you got goin over there.

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Starfire2313 t1_j4rlqdc wrote

I lose my phone all the time and it is always a whole damned assed adventure. But I’m not deaf or anything, just a vapid space cadet.

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voicebread t1_j4oa6gf wrote

…you good?

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freeshavocadew t1_j4poqun wrote

I am just fine, thanks.

If you reread that paragraph that a couple of people are describing as crazed and unhinged for some reason instead as sarcastically and argumentative that this particular woman from this story is, by nature of what she's dealing with disability-wise, one of the most vulnerable people in our society after that deaf person tried to argue being deaf was just on a spectrum it might seem less unhinged. It was also written to have a few references and jokes thrown in like the DiMarco guy being a famous deaf model and advocate and honking of horns seemingly falling on deaf ears wandering around QUEENS, NYC. A lot of people that can hear perfectly fine but are distracted get hit by cars. Am I supposed to believe that she's exceptional and the sense of hearing doesn't matter for that?

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FTM_UMD t1_j4o0sfy wrote

I'd upvote because I agree with your point, but you need kind of need to chill

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freeshavocadew t1_j4o1cu7 wrote

You read this, jokes and all, and what, you think I was yelling or something? It's not extra to call a deaf person deaf and point out some things I imagine are true. Whatever though.

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