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mellymellcaramel t1_ja4fx7m wrote

Reply to comment by dupattaluella in Trans Girl looking for a hairstylist who is knowledgeable about working with Trans people by Jade_of_the_Sea36

Yes, you can absolutely make judgements. That’s what people do. If I see a raccoon acting strange I’m going to make a judgment and assume it has rabies. But it could be possibly sick, but I’m using my life experiences to make a call to keep me safe. And I’ll apply that in all areas of my life. I’m not living in fear, and I’m living fully. It’s okay to be weary of people places or things based on lived experiences.

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dupattaluella t1_ja4jw4s wrote

>It’s okay to be weary of people places or things based on lived experiences.

Never said it wasn't OK. Being alert and understanding your surroundings is much different then making assumptions and judgments. Making assumptions and judgements of people of a certain group based on only the people you've been in contact with that were shitty isn't right. Again, if someone did that to black people, it would be called racism. If people did that to trans people, it would be called hate and bigotry. So what is it when you choose to dislike all men and be leary of all men? I feel like there's a word for that. 🤔

And of course you'd be leary of a racoon acting strange. It's a wild animal. That's much different than a human being who isn't going to be exposed to rabies as much as animals living in the wild would be.

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mellymellcaramel t1_ja9oq77 wrote

LIf there’s a hundred men in the room and one of them is a serial killer, I’m going to avoid all 100 men. Again, you can judge people to keep yourself safe, and it’s done subconsciously every day. So, if there’s a hundred barbers in worcester and one of them is transphobic, wouldn’t you want to try and find out which one?

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dupattaluella t1_ja9zerm wrote

>LIf there’s a hundred men in the room and one of them is a serial killer, I’m going to avoid all 100 men

How do you know there's a serial killer in the room?

>Again, you can judge people to keep yourself safe, and it’s done subconsciously every day.

Never said you couldn't. I'm saying if you judge people based on what someone did, or said, to you before, you're being prejudice (or bias if you want a nicer word). You're making assumptions of people. With my past examples, this could be racist or sexist, so how is it any different in this case?

>So, if there’s a hundred barbers in worcester and one of them is transphobic, wouldn’t you want to try and find out which one?

Nope. I'd go to a barber and see how the interaction goes. 1/100 is such a small chance that it's not worth the time and effort to figure out which one it is.

Also, you're using "transphobic" incorrectly. Phobic is a suffix from the Greek language and literally means having or involving an extreme or irrational fear of or aversion to something. Such as arachniphobic, which is an extreme fear of spiders. You can't decide to change the Greek language that has been set for around 2400 years. Or did you think arachniphobic meant to have an extreme hatred or bigotry of spiders?

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mellymellcaramel t1_jaa4gin wrote

You’re really insufferable.

Good for you that you would go to a barber without checking which one. This person chose not to do that, and that is perfectly OK. I’m not answering your straw man questions about how I know there’s a serial killer.

I didn’t invent the word transphobic, go write a letter to Merrimack Webster and tell them all about your feelings.

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dupattaluella t1_jaaau3l wrote

You seem very upset at the fact that I see verifying 100 barbers as too much work. And you don't want to answer my question as to how you'd know who's a serial killer because you wouldn't be able to without someone telling you or you looking it up.

It's Merriam Webster. They chose to add the word "discrimination" to any word using "phobic" that's centered around people, yet don't do that for any other "phobic" words. They also don't define "phobic" using the word "discrimination." So, you can probably see how they've adapted Greek words to mean whatever they want them to mean. By you using the word, you are saying you agree. By agreeing, you are changing Greek words that have been established for about 2400 years and choosing when and when not to add the meaning of bigotry or hatred to the suffix "phobic." You are picking and choosing when and where "phobic" means one thing vs another.

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