DetainTheFranzia t1_iw73gu8 wrote on November 13, 2022 at 1:47 PM

At nighttime, I don't trust anyone in this city. I'm always on alert when I walk by someone. Even during the day I don't let myself get too oblivious to my surroundings. I certainly don't smile at strangers. It's just the unfortunate necessity in a city like this. You did the right thing giving them your phone.

By the way, nobody has said this, but just take care of yourself this week. Traumatic experiences like that have a way of seeping deep into your body and even if you don't feel like you're in shock or are traumatized, you might have already internalized a lot of stress. Just go easy this week, don't put too much pressure on yourself to be your best self. Give yourself time to heal.

myhatwhatapicnic t1_iw7zsmk wrote on November 13, 2022 at 5:45 PM

I'll take every precaution necessary to stay safe, but I'm not going to stop smiling at strangers.

JohnBarleyCorn2 t1_iw7v7nd wrote on November 13, 2022 at 5:14 PM

best advice you can give right here.

Stand straight, Walk confidently, keep your head on a swivel. Be 100 percent aware of your surroundings at all time. Make eye contact with people. Don't look at your phone while walking.

Velghast t1_iw88p06 wrote on November 13, 2022 at 6:42 PM

Yup, If you look like your not to be fucked with, you wont be fucked with. 90% of the time.

EthanSayfo t1_iw87ibu wrote on November 13, 2022 at 6:34 PM

I don't walk around after dark by myself, period. I know of way too many horror stories, including someone I know who was shot and almost killed (and this was a bit before street crime started getting much worse).

I'm a middle-aged man who lives in a better-than-average (crime-wise) area in the city, for what it's worth.