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ThisAmericanSatire t1_j3n7ap5 wrote

To each their own, but an Aquarium (or zoo, or museum, art gallery etc) is better for a 3rd date in my opinion.

I learned long ago that the best first date is drinks at a not-too-loud bar (or coffee if they don't drink) where you can easily break the ice and get to know each other.

Bars are usually near restaurants, so if drinks go well, you can suggest grabbing dinner after the drinks.

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ZealousidealGuest276 OP t1_j3n7mgq wrote

Damn so like an interview lol I thought something fun or scenic would be a good first try but maybe not

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leon_de_sol t1_j3nfgcg wrote

The key to a good first date plan is usually a safe place (coffee shop, bar, frequented park, etc), easy out (no obligation to stay like for dinner or to the end of an activity), and something fun.

One that was a go to in summer was b'more licks and walk around Patterson park in the summer, sandlot bar (oitdoors) in good weather, or a cute coffeeshop downtown in fells like pitango

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Synaptic_raspberry t1_j3p8b1o wrote

I once took a woman on a first date to a place where you get paintbrushes and paints, and you paint on a blank coffee mug or plate. They fire it in a kiln, and you pick up your work of art a week later. It was cool cause having an activity to do kind of took off some of the awkward "interview" pressure of just sitting there staring at each other. But unlike a movie or sporting event, it's easy to talk whenever you want. And then zone out when you want and just focus on painting for a bit. Also, I've been married to that woman for seven years.

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ThisAmericanSatire t1_j3ne9fs wrote

It's funny, I have been in a relationship for the past two and a half years, and just the other day she and I were talking, she said our first date did feel a lot like an interview.

Like I said, to each their own, and what works for me may not work for you.

One thing I will say for sure though, is that alcohol really helps. I'm not saying get drunk, but having a drink or two does help you open up and be conversational on a date

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madefromdoge t1_j3r2bd3 wrote

Pretty decent advice but from the gun be yourself. And go with your instincts.

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Cocosam80 t1_j3qn4px wrote

I love activity first dates, it feels less like an interview and more like I am having a good time with a friend (that hopefully if the cards are played right will become more). Activity dates feel like less pressure because you're engaging in something.

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