The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity and Love offers an important perspective on all of this that gets to the root of the issue. We neglect the emotional needs of boys and men which is a form of abuse and this contributes to ADHD and other developmental disorders that compound especially for boys coming from less resourced backgrounds. From what I understand, the book Of Boys and Men points out that boys and girls from middle class and upper class backgrounds tend to perform similarly. It’s particularly boys from lower income and more patriarchal backgrounds who struggle the most.