It could be this. But...

I'm a man who fits into few of the male boxes. I very often relate to female characters far more than I do male characters. Beth March, Lizzy Bennet, Meg Murry, and Tehanu; these are my people. They show me I'm not alone in feeling the way I feel, even though I can't relate directly to all of their experience (e.g., Tehanu's struggle against patriarchal oppression, which affects me in an entirely different way than it does her). When I do relate to a male character, it's often because they too don't fit into the box either: Richard Mayhew, Charlie Gordon Flowers, or Frankenstein's monster (took me wayyyy too long to come up with a third example here, which is only technically male, and is written by a woman, mind you). The way female authors think and write also resonates with me (by and large) much more naturally than do male perspectives.

So yeah. Maybe OP just has a lot of internalized misogyny. Or maybe, like me, she's a little gender queer and just hasn't figured it out yet.