[OC] Results after a little over a month on Hinge (M/27)Submitted by elhospitaler t3_11q221u in dataisbeautiful
elhospitaler OP t1_jc0z5zb wrote
Made with https://sankeymatic.com/build/
Data source: me
For context - Straight, 27 y.o. Asian American male in a major US metro, grad student in a STEM field. All second dates will probably become third dates. And on other apps (bumble, okcupid), I've had basically zero responses/dates.
On hinge you get 8 likes to send per day, and I've been swiping pretty much every day, so I've probably sent likes to around 300 people.
I_am_noob_dont_yell t1_jc16ek0 wrote
You have all these dates overlapping?
elhospitaler OP t1_jc1n12g wrote
Yeah, some weekends were pretty packed, also some dates were just simple coffee dates in the middle of the weekday
JellyWaffles t1_jc1v7pb wrote
Ok yeah, 11 dates in a single month for a guy honestly feels like a lot.
elhospitaler OP t1_jc1vqmg wrote
Yeah I'm quite extroverted but it's starting to be draining.
Yummy_Crayons91 t1_jc3pl0r wrote
The same thing happened to me with Hinge. I got divorced, downloaded Hinge and with the help of friends wives I made a profile that seemed to have a good amount of success. As I got my dating confidence back I started to get exhausted from all of the chats and first dates that I got Hinge burnout.
Too much attention on that app is exhausting for Men, you're basically expected to lead every conversation, more or less plan every date, meet up etc. It was all my free time for a while.
I had absolutely zero luck with Tinder by the way, what a trash, spam filled app.
elhospitaler OP t1_jc5f6pq wrote
Sorry to hear that mate. Hope things are better for you now.
I_am_noob_dont_yell t1_jc1wwk9 wrote
Sounds like me when I was depressed. Don't miss dating.
thirstymayor t1_jc1jya7 wrote
I’m really not a fan of the limited likes. This is a numbers game for guys.
AfraidtoDraw2021 t1_jc1s9to wrote
OK, but when the same 90% of guys are sending all of their likes to the same 10% of women... those women end up ignoring/ghosting almost all of them.
Having limited likes means you have to think about whether or not you have a chance with someone before shooting your shot.
elhospitaler OP t1_jc1sim4 wrote
I agree. The hinge system seems to work much better in generating engagement from girls where they'd otherwise be overwhelmed with choice on tinder/bumble etc.
IpsoKinetikon t1_jc1vcrp wrote
The numbers game is when the guy puts out hundreds of low effort attempts per week. Limiting how many likes people can use is the opposite of that.
psuedonymously t1_jc1ymj9 wrote
> I’m really not a fan of the limited likes. This is a numbers game for guys.
Ok, but OP has clearly had vastly greater success on that platform.
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