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CantHugEveryPlatypus t1_iucdoxm wrote

Reply to comment by halfveela in My boyfriend and my’s Halloween costume this year by tara_constance

Reddit is really struggling with possessive pronouns

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tara_constance OP t1_iucg8s0 wrote

We are still a little buzzed from the night, so my grammar is definitely in need of constructive criticism XD

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Shoogled t1_iucltnm wrote

Try: My boyfriend and me in our Hallowe’en costumes.

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Fuzakeruna t1_iud737r wrote

Ooo, nice throwback to the apostrophe that used to be in Halloween.

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Shoogled t1_iudngkp wrote

As far as I’m concerned it isn’t a throwback; it’s simply the correct spelling. 😊

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barneyaa t1_iudujnc wrote

And I

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GaGaORiley t1_iue5sm3 wrote

No. If it was one person, it would be “(this is) me in my Hallowe’en costume,” not, “(this is I in my Hallowe’en costume”.

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Shoogled t1_iue7w3p wrote

Both are arguably correct but me is preferable. It can only be ‘my boyfriend and I’ if one is trying to say ‘this is my boyfriend and I’, accepting that the verb ‘to be’ takes the nominative case. But I presume you don’t usually say ‘this is I’ because that sounds like an affectation.

You would never say this is a picture of I. So you mustn’t say ‘this is a picture of my boyfriend and I.’

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tatakatakashi t1_iucqjan wrote

Technically you were closer than people usually are. Most people would write “Me and my boyfriend’s costume”, which is wrong but sounds right. Correctly it’s “My boyfriend’s and my costume”, as both have to be in the possessive, but it doesn’t roll nicely so u/shoogled has it nice

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frogandbanjo t1_iudcga8 wrote

"Me and my boyfriend" is a perfectly acceptable compound noun, though.

"The costume being worn by both me and my boyfriend, together, collectively, as a couple," is a valid sentence (edit: well, a relevant fragment of one.) Yes, it uses the passive voice, which ordinarily isn't great, but its usage is intentional to get my point across.

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bellyscritches t1_iuczz0k wrote

It should be "My and my boyfriend's costumes."

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Complete-Dimension35 t1_iudf01j wrote

Whenever you're naming multiple parties in which you are one, always put yourself last. "I/me and [whoever]" is always grammatically incorrect. "[Whoever] and I/me" is the correct structure.

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Shoogled t1_iuezcei wrote

I know what you’re getting at but I think you’re wrong to suggest it’s to do with grammar. Putting oneself after others in a list is stylistically better but not to do so isn’t incorrect.

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Cogwheel t1_iufo9ip wrote

Or they write "My boyfriend and I's costume"

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halfveela t1_iug5v7x wrote

I don't normally nag about grammar like that but "my's" is particularly egregious and kind of hilarious. I hope it means ya'll had a fuckton of fun lol.

You just need to move that possessive ('s) from after "my" (because "my" is already possessive) to after "boyfriend" instead and your sentence is perfect.

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PillowTalk420 t1_iufg8nk wrote

I don't struggle to possess any of them. I have a good lock on the basement.

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