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GiraffePolka t1_izs9m37 wrote
Usually a husband stitch means painful sex for the woman, sometimes to the point where they can no longer have sex or enjoy it.
BatRayz t1_izslzet wrote
I thought it was made up.
GiraffePolka t1_izsn115 wrote
Unfortunately, no. Here's an article about it
BatRayz t1_izv0s7j wrote
> There are no scientific studies that show how many women have been affected, nor is there a clear method for evaluating how prevalent the husband stitch truly is in obstetrics.
MsTerious1 t1_izsxpm8 wrote
No, it's not made up. I requested one when I gave birth vaginally, and I would request it again. It did hurt for the first month or two after we resumed sex but it wasn't so painful that it prevented my enjoyment.
My doctor told me it's also called a crown stitch and described it to me before doing it. Instead of just stitching the "right" portion of the vaginal entry at the perineum, the crown stitch also stitches a little of the vaginal wall and brings it up to that "ring." (I don't know the name of the sphincter there.) Maybe I got lucky, but I would not hesitate to do the same thing if I were having a baby again.
actively_eating t1_izsyfsx wrote
can you explain why? you said it hurt. what are the pros?
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candornotsmoke t1_iztrpr4 wrote
What's right for you isn't right for anyone. Also, the literature doesn't support husband stitched as it messes with the way the vagina unfolds during sex.
Secondly, husbands would ask for this when their wife was under andI and couldn't consent to the "procedure". The entire basis for the "husband stitch" is misogynistic.
It is just as barbaric as FGM.
MsTerious1 t1_izuxg7n wrote
- Where did I say it was right for everyone or even encourage ANYone to get one? Yet here you are, being hypocritical by chastising me for something I had every right to do simply because I didn't have a bad experience with it.
- I'm a woman. Please do not tell me that I am being misogynistic. That's as bad as women who don't allow men to hold doors open because it devalues a woman's ability to open her own door. Sometimes people can choose to do things for someone else for reasons that have NOTHING to do with with their "value" as a person.
candornotsmoke t1_izv66hs wrote
I didn't, actually. I just said what I was thinking and how I equated the procedure to other commonly done "procedures ". It wasn't a personal attack.
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superspiffyusername t1_izs86qv wrote
Was it better for her, though?
MorrowPlotting t1_izsadev wrote
Like I said — and the downvoters seem to have missed it — this probably didn’t really happen, and if it did, I’m as appalled as you all are.
But, yes, my wife thinks better sex is better. (She credits the deepened emotional bond of sharing parenthood together. Which is totally probably the answer.)
Dankestgoldenfries t1_izsicee wrote
The downvotes are probably because you said that a husband stitch would make sex better if it had happened. That’s patently untrue for both parties
daveescaped t1_izsf3me wrote
We were in the Middle East during this particular birth (Abu Dhabi) but the surgeon literally said out loud, “and one stitch for your husband”. I was ignorant to the concept. It was much later when I realized what he meant. By then it creeped me out.
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POTUSBrown t1_izsh5at wrote
I heard from multiple women, that sex is better after baby, not sure what the reason is for this.
Botryllus t1_izstugs wrote
It is not from a husband stitch if that's what you're implying.
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