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Undecidedbutsure t1_je7vo27 wrote

I watched my mom die an incredibly painful death over the course of 18 months. She wanted to die MONTHS before she did, at one point she asked me to do whatever I could to “make it stop”. She had brain cancer. She couldn’t eat, talk or move on her own towards the end. She was skin and bones. People had to wash her, dress her, assist with bathroom. She couldn’t swallow water. She was on hospice, the nurse kept saying every day might be “the day”….her organs were shutting down…etc. I asked for her to be given as much morphine as possible so she couldn’t feel anything. “She isn’t in any pain.” She ended up dying at 2:30am one morning because the phlegm that we would remove for her was stuck in her throat and she choked to death. She felt that. I know she did. She didn’t just drift away on morphine.

If anyone in their right mind thinks they want to die like this that’s their choice, but I sure as hell don’t and neither did my mom. Ppl should be able to choose.

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DangleBopp t1_je8n7g9 wrote

Geez, reading this gave me knots in my stomach. I'm sorry you and your mother had to go through that

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Undecidedbutsure t1_je9m6co wrote

Thank you. I honestly never imagined what it would be like (how could anyone, really?). She died 16 years ago right before Mothers Day, I’ve never been the same. Losing a loved one is hard enough but to watch them suffer when it doesn’t need to end like that is intolerable.

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barkingdog53 t1_je91ber wrote

It’s so sad your poor mother, and so many more, had to go through this. My heart goes out to you.

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CatCranky t1_je9dbsb wrote

I’m so sorry that your mother had to suffer this way, and I’m sorry for your loss. I did sign a petition to support Death With Dignity.

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kintnerboyinside t1_jedeu0p wrote

Felt this very much personally. Watched my dad go through something similar this year. Last months he was catatonic and eventually they said his tongue prolapsed and he stopped breathing. it was awful to watch.

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PrincessAegonIXth t1_jea6rqn wrote

I can’t imagine going through something like that and watching someone you love be in so much agony and discomfort. My grandfather (in Canada) used Assisted Dying when he had terminal cancer. It was such a brave choice of his, and a relief for him as well. He died before his appointment but it brought him peace to know that it would end soon.

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