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frankybling t1_jdbfsnp wrote

so I’ve been at the other end of this… I now have custody of my kids… DCF pretty much investigated and then decided their mom wasn’t working out. It was not a good execution of their powers. It was very traumatic for our kids. I’m not saying the kids should have stayed with her but the way they went about the process was unnecessarily traumatic for the children involved with it. I got a call and was told I had 20 minutes or they would be placed in temporary foster care… I lived an hour away and it was 9PM on a Thursday night. I was able to keep things a little sane by explaining that I was on my way forthwith and our kids hung around their grandparents’ house for a few hours… but the “no knock” style of uprooting them has had lasting effects… they’re doing ok now, and I understand why DCF uses their power to protect them but it could have been handled differently.

Edit-there was a lot of drama and police stuff too, but alls well in my case

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dazzlingupstairz OP t1_jdbgyia wrote

I mean. This case might be different, the couple is married too.

I understand imminent danger. I understand that it's better to have alive children than children murdered by their parents.

But this seems insane.

The aunt of the father tweeted this (cited in the articles, not just a random person on twitter).

  • Wednesday updates: My nephew and his wife were able to read why CPS felt that the boys were in "imminent danger" (CPS says that has to be believed to do the child extraction). And remember, this is after the pediatrician vouched for them, and the hospital released the baby.

  • There were 3 reasons listed:

    1. "Living in a neighborhood with not enough children." This is straight up punishing parents for not being rich. My nephew and his wife chose a "poor" neighborhood because they are trying to save up for a house, and it was convenient to their work.
    1. "The mother rolled her eyes when asked a question." Want to know what the question was? Here you go: "How often does your husband neglect his children?" I mean... I would have 100% rolled my eyes. What a manipulative thing to ask.
    1. The last "evidence" was that "the mother cried when they wanted to give the baby another blood test." CPS said, "Her crying indicated that she was guilty." Keep in mind, they had already done 12 tests on the baby! And he was distressed by it!

If even a fraction of that is true, then what the fuck?

Also, this.

  • Something you might be interested to know: As soon as the judge ruled against DCF, DCF promptly asked for a gag order against any discussion of the case with the media. But their request for a gag order was denied (except for the actual court records).

What the fuck?

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NoMoLerking t1_jdcfduh wrote

>How often does your husband neglect his children?

LOL. No questions about when he stopped beating them? Yeah, I’d have rolled my eyes too.

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mrlolloran t1_jdcrj50 wrote

Jesus Fucking Christ! (Yes I think the situation calls for it to be spelled all the way out)

They’re lucky nobody has come in there with a gun saying shit like you got 20 minutes or they’re in foster care! I don’t even have kids and the empathetic shiver that just went down my spine was insane. Very sorry you went through that. How can they even say they care about the kids when they do that?

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